You may not have heard about the "secret" society called MySpace. Almost everyone in school has a MySpace page that lists everything about themselves and chances are your child has been encouraged to create one. T'weens are told how to bypass the rules so they can get a page even though they aren't old enough. They are a fun way to share information about yourself and post pictures but they can be dangerous for kids, including teens.
About MySpace
MySpace allows you or your child to create a place
for you to share what you are thinking with the world and photos. It is very
popular with kids and most kids have a page.
MySpace Requirements
All that is required to get a MySpace page is an
email address to sign up. You also need to certify that you are at least 14
years of age. Most kids just say that they are 14 if they aren't. MySpace does not want children under the age of 14 and if
they find out they are they will discontinue the service. MySpace
tries to police it but they have no way of knowing if their member is actually
14. If you discover that your child has one, you can ask to have your child's MySpace page removed.
Privacy and MySpace
Most kids make their MySpace page private where only
friends they designate are allowed to see their page. This is safer than
allowing it to be private but it also makes it difficult for parents to keep
track of what they are posting and most kids don't want their parents to see
what they are posting.
What Is Posted On MySpace
MySpace makes it easy to post all about you. The
first thing you do is post a profile with your name, town, interests, school,
sexual orientation, books and movies you like, who your heroes are and much
more. Your child can easily put everything about them online.
The Dangers of MySpace
Your child can easily post enough information about themselves to be abducted.
An online predator looking at your child's page has enough information to
arrive at your door or the playground that your child frequents. You must teach
your child the dangers of posting too much information and you must follow up
to make sure they aren't posting too much information.
Another problem is that children tend to post things that should never be put in print. They say things like they want to burn down the school or they want to kill so-and-so with not literally meaning it but threats like that could be taken seriously.
MySpace is for kids over 14 years of age. There is sexually explicit information on the site posted by other users and the profile questions that users create is geared towards adults.
How To Protect Your Child
The main safety rule is that they must not post too much identifying
information especially their last name. You should not trust your child to post
too much information though even if you speak to them daily about it because
children always think that it will never happen to them and they aren't in
danger. Besides, their friends tell them that it is safe and often children
think their friends are more Internet savvy than you. If your child wants to
have a MySpace page you need to have access to it.
When you explain to them that there are very real dangers, you can make the
rule that if they want to use the computer, they will have to share the access
information. If you feel that you can't do this, you can install monitoring
software to see what they are seeing without them knowing it. You can also
install filtering
softwarethat will stop
them from visiting the site.
MySpace Safety Tips
MySpace provides Safety
Tips and Tips
for Parents that you should read.
Tom from MySpace is Everyone's Friend
If your child already has a MySpace page and you
visit it for the first time, do not be alarmed at their 29 year old friend
named Tom, as he is the creator of MySpace and
appears as a friend to everyone.